Alpo Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 You have been wronged. Do you forgive and forget? Or do you forgive, but remember? Or do you forget about it, until something happens to bring it up in memory again, and then you think, "I'm gonna find that sumbitch one of these days"? I'm the third type, myownself. Someone does me wrong, and I don't see him right soon, I tend to forget about it, because carrying a grudge around don't do you no good. But if I see him, or someone mentions him, that block of memory opens up again. I might not take any action - kinda hard to convince the judge that it was reasonable I put somebody in the hospital because he stole $20 out of my wallet 50 years ago - but I sure hell haven't forgiven him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smuteye John SASS#24774 Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 Forgive your enemies- but remember the b@#$%^d's name. If they will screw you once, they will do it again. Take advantage of my trust of you and I'm 'done with' you. No contact other than what's absolutely necessary (I'll cross a busy street to avoid them) and even then, it will be minimal and under protest on my part. Don't bother trying to initiate small talk because all you are getting is one syllable answers- if I bother to give you more than an 'are you stupid or what?' look. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlie Harley, #14153 Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 I forgive, but learn from experiences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Widder, SASS #59054 Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 Hey ALPO. I think, as you related to, that the 'circumstance' would mostly dictate your actions and reactions. Sometimes, I find it disparaging to forgive, forget and trust someone who may have wronged a friend, more so than if they had wronged me. In my life, I have been wronged, lied to, cheated, etc..... Forgiveness is a good attribute of mine. A good Memory tends to be a stronger attribute of mine. ..........Widder Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cypress Sun Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 Really depends on what the wrong was. I'll forgive but only to a point. I never forget. Sometimes I never forgive. I don't seek revenge on the ones that I have forgiven. On the ones I haven't forgiven, I don't seek revenge but if the opportunity presents itself....I'll take it and use extreme prejudice. If you are my enemy, you'll stay that way for life. Only so many times in life that you can turn the other cheek in my opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sgt. C.J. Sabre, SASS #46770 Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 54 minutes ago, Cypress Sun said: Really depends on what the wrong was. I'll forgive but only to a point. I never forget. Sometimes I never forgive. I don't seek revenge on the ones that I have forgiven. On the ones I haven't forgiven, I don't seek revenge but if the opportunity presents itself....I'll take it and use extreme prejudice. If you are my enemy, you'll stay that way for life. Only so many times in life that you can turn the other cheek in my opinion. My attitude too, with one caveat: The only time I forgive is IF they: (1) Admit the wrong, (2)Right the wrong, (3)ASK for forgiveness. And I STILL don't forget. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michigan Slim Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 Neither. Nope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forty Rod SASS 3935 Posted February 2, 2020 Share Posted February 2, 2020 2 hours ago, Alpo said: You have been wronged. Do you forgive and forget? Or do you forgive, but remember? Or do you forget about it, until something happens to bring it up in memory again, and then you think, "I'm gonna find that sumbitch one of these days"? I'm the third type, myownself. Someone does me wrong, and I don't see him right soon, I tend to forget about it, because carrying a grudge around don't do you no good. But if I see him, or someone mentions him, that block of memory opens up again. I might not take any action - kinda hard to convince the judge that it was reasonable I put somebody in the hospital because he stole $20 out of my wallet 50 years ago - but I sure hell haven't forgiven him. It's like reading my own answer. Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Badger Mountain Charlie SASS #43172 Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 Never forget, never trust but never dwell on the infringement. You shame me once, shame on you, the next time, shame on me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pat Riot Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 For me it completely depends on the situation and who I am dealing with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Badlands Bob #61228 Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 I usually don't carry a grudge more than 20 or 30 years. Usually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tascosa, SASS# 24838 Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 I forgive and forget if I can shoot the SOB. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DocWard Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 I believe we've had this discussion before. For me, forgiveness is releasing a burden that only I carry, the weight unknown to the person I carry it against. Having said that, to forget is to invite that person to wrong me again, for which I would only be able to blame myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Captain Bill Burt Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 I might forget, forgiveness is in short supply. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allie Mo, SASS No. 25217 Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 It depends on the wrong... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jabez Cowboy,SASS # 50129 Posted February 3, 2020 Share Posted February 3, 2020 Howdy ; Cheat me once, Shame on You ,,,, Cheat me Twice Shame on Me ….. I forgive ,,, but remember …. Cheat a Friend ,,,,,, It's up to them if they Forgive, but I don't Forget ... In two decades in this sport I have put exactly Two Persons on my "Do Not Deal With" list …. Folks in this game are the nicest most trustworthy folk around ,,,, except those two …. Both Wronged Friends of Mine … I have personally had no real issues …. Jabez Cowboy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marshal Chance Morgun Posted February 5, 2020 Share Posted February 5, 2020 All depends. Kinda like the miss-flow charter. Was this a misunderstanding? Yes-No. Was this the first time? Yes-no. Is the guy a jerk? Yes-No etc...…. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irish ike, SASS #43615 Posted February 5, 2020 Share Posted February 5, 2020 Me, I'm a hard liner. Screw me once and I never forget or forgive. I still hold a grudge against a guy who's been dead 10 years! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matthew Duncan Posted February 5, 2020 Share Posted February 5, 2020 IMHO Forgive means you don’t allow the person or wrong to dictate The rest of your life. Remember means they ain’t going to fool you again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MizPete Posted February 6, 2020 Share Posted February 6, 2020 On 2/5/2020 at 11:14 AM, irish ike, SASS #43615 said: I still hold a grudge against a guy who's been dead 10 years! Is that the Irish in ye? Don't forget: forgiveness isn't for him - it's for you. That being, I've always said Southern women (with or without that drop of Celtic blood) have a long memory, and we can wait. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkey Flats Jack Posted February 6, 2020 Share Posted February 6, 2020 I tend to forget what they've done to me but when I see them I remember I hate'm for something or another and just stay clear of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allie Mo, SASS No. 25217 Posted February 6, 2020 Share Posted February 6, 2020 I'll probably delete this a I did with parts of my previous post. I've been wronged many times. One of the most hurtful was by someone I respected. He believed lies someone told him about me and repeated them in an email to someone else. I, among others, was copied into a forwarding of his email stating those lies. I wrote him that he "was greatly misled" by the liar. He told the liar and the liar wrote me. Liar told me to leave the person he misled alone. I've tried to forgive the misled person; but, I will not forget that he repeated lies based on one person's word. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allie Mo, SASS No. 25217 Posted February 6, 2020 Share Posted February 6, 2020 PS Alpo, no offence meant to you; but this thread has brought me painful memories. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allie Mo, SASS No. 25217 Posted February 6, 2020 Share Posted February 6, 2020 PPS I know that I should not look at this thread again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allie Mo, SASS No. 25217 Posted February 7, 2020 Share Posted February 7, 2020 On 2/2/2020 at 2:56 PM, Sgt. C.J. Sabre, SASS #46770 said: My attitude too, with one caveat: The only time I forgive is IF they: (1) Admit the wrong, (2)Right the wrong, (3)ASK for forgiveness. And I STILL don't forget. None of the people who have wronged me have done this. I ask myself, is this the way they treat anyone who disagrees with them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Birdgun Quail, SASS #63663 Posted February 7, 2020 Share Posted February 7, 2020 To forgive is human. To forget is Divine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sgt. C.J. Sabre, SASS #46770 Posted February 7, 2020 Share Posted February 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Allie Mo, SASS No. 25217 said: None of the people who have wronged me have done this. I ask myself, is this the way they treat anyone who disagrees with them? Pretty much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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