Major Pain Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Oh how true this is! Major Payne HOW LONG DO YOU WORRY ABOUT YOUR KIDS?? Is there an imaginary cutoff period when offspring become accountable for their own actions? Is there some wonderful moment when parents can become detached spectators in the lives of their children and shrug, 'It's Their life,' and feel nothing? When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital corridor waiting for doctors to put a few stitches in my son's head and I asked, 'When do you stop worrying?' The nurse said, 'When they get out of the accident stage..' My Parents just smiled faintly and said nothing. When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little chair in a classroom and heard how one of my children talked incessantly, disrupted the class, and was headed for a career making license plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher said, 'Don't worry, they all go through this stage and then you can sit back, relax and enjoy them.' My Parents just smiled faintly and said nothing. When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come home, the front door to open. A friend said, 'They're trying to find themselves. 'Don't worry! In a few years, they'll be adults. 'They'll be off on their own they'll be out of your hair' My Parents just smiled faintly And said nothing. By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being vulnerable. I was still worrying over my children, but there was a new wrinkle.. Even though they were on their own I continued to anguish over their failures, be tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in their disappointments.. and there was nothing I could do about it. My Parents just smiled faintly and said nothing. My friends said that when my kids got married I could stop worrying and lead my own life. I wanted to believe that, but I was haunted by my parent's warm smiles and their occasional, 'You look pale. Are you all right' ? 'Call me the minute you get home'. Are you depressed about something?' My friends said that when I became a grandparent that I would get to enjoy the happy little voices yelling Grandma! Papa! But now I find that I worry just as much about the little kids as the big ones. How can anyone cope with all this Worry? Can it be that parents are sentenced to a lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of human frailties and the fears of the unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue that elevates us to the highest form of earthly creation? Recently, one of my own children became quite irritable, saying to me, 'Where were you? I've been calling for 3 days, and no one answered I was worried.' I smiled a warm smile. The torch has been passed. PASS IT ON TO OTHER WONDERFUL PARENTS (And also to your children... That's the fun part) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GunClick Rick Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Ive been tellin my only child and duaghter for years now i can't wait till i start poopin yellow again and the old folks home will be right here! She is practicing right now she just had a baby,i month old now,i call her her puddin,cuase she drinks that bottle and makes puddin a few minutes later.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivory Jack, #8534 LTG Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 You're kidding, right? 5 daughters ranging in age from 33 to 26 (birthday this month). We never stop worrying about our kids. And now we have to worry about Grand Kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivory Jack, #8534 LTG Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Sorry, double tap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bama Red Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Got a hair trigger on that mouse, don'cha Jack? Durn Gamer! :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spooky Joe, SASS #24061 Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 My son is almost 40, a tenured Physics Professor at Princeton University, married and the father of 2 boys. My daughter is in her mid-30s, a playwrite and screen writer. Married to a very nice man. There isn't a day that goes by that we don't worry about what the future holds for them and how they are doing. And they both worry about us and how we are coping with the things that come with advancing years. It's a two-way street and I wouldn't have it any other way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivory Jack, #8534 LTG Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Got a hair trigger on that mouse, don'cha Jack? Durn Gamer! :lol: Dang Red, ya caught me! You know how it is with us Gunfighters.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noz Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Eldest daughter is 46 and a constant worry. She's my baby after all! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlie MacNeil, SASS #48580 Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 You quit worrying about them when either you die or they do... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forty Rod SASS 3935 Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 My oldest is 45 next month, the other is 42, and my grandson is 10. My DIL is 43. I still sweat bullets over them all every day. Now they worry about me and their mother and grandma. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holden A. Grudge Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Oldest just turned 16 and driving now.....new worries Next one is 12 and grades starting to slip........falling in with a bad crowd worries Next is 11 and discovering boys..............worriesa abound Next is 7 and always getting in trouble in school........teaching right from wrong worries Last (and I do mean LAST) is 6 monthes with some crazy bad acid reflux.............health worries The worries never seem to end they just change over time. I will always worry because I will always care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoedown Hal SASS#27657 Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 From cradle to grave. HH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coffee Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 I've got 4 kids If 3 survive I still get a passing grade right? What! me worry Coffee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brother Jim Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 When you watch that life come into the world it is the most important person in your life. You never stop caring, fretting, worrying or loving your children. No matter how old either of you become. Just my experience but I know of no one in my circle of friends that don't think about their kids no matter how "bad" or "good" they turned out. My daughter is my life as are my 5 grandchildren. That love and concern just naturally passes on down as each is born. It is the greatest feeling on earth...right up there with cowboy action shooting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Texas Lizard Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 There cradle my grave...And I'm not in a hurry...Twins 26...One of each and 28 year old girl...Soon to be married, I hope... Texas Lizard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silver Sides Posted February 11, 2011 Share Posted February 11, 2011 Five wonderful, different in their own way, children and one grandson. I can't believe I sleep at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackwater 53393 Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 If I'da known grankids were so much fun I'da skipped the kids and gone straight for the grandkids!! Only got one offspring and he's okay. Family takes care of family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Peludo, SASS #3763L Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 What!?!? Me worry?? Nah, I fret, cuss, stew, obsess, cry, ad nauseum. You never quit worrying about 'em, no matter how old they get, or what lifestyle they have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rye Miles #13621 Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 I got 2 boys, one is 42 the other 40 and I still call 'em my "kids". Grandkids are another worry or maybe concern is a better word. I'll never stop being a very concerned parent, I think it's something bred in us or maybe it's the way yer raised. My parents worried about me until the day they died. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Montana Slick, SASS #64415 Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 I have 4 Kids, oldest is 42, all are educated, have jobs, and have kids of their own. I'm sitting here thinking..their getting older than me. What would we do with out our Kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sergeant Smokepole #29248L Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 My kids are 36 and 34 and I still worry about them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apache Hawk 60642 Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 Well, ya will worry bout'em somethin fearlessly !! All through yur life and ders, ifin' God forbid, ya out live'em. Had I know all da worry and sleepless nights I was puttin' my Dad through, I'd thought better of it... And his Daddy before him and ect, ect and so forth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Logan #12252 Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 boy n 2 girls, in mid to late 49's still worry, worry more bout grand kids, dont think there is any great grand kids yet, but who knows... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apache Hawk 60642 Posted February 12, 2011 Share Posted February 12, 2011 boy n 2 girls, in mid to late 49's still worry, worry more bout grand kids, dont think there is any great grand kids yet, but who knows... Got me 4 kids....3 boys and 1 stinkin' girl ! ( Hey, dats what she calls herself !!) 3 grandkids from my 1st boy ans 1 more grandkid on da way from my youngest boy. 3rd oldest boy's wife had a miscarrage, poor baby took one breath den went home to da Lord. They took it hard and der marriage broke up. Got a divorce. I loves playin' wif my grandkids and have to watch mouth on tellin' him and his wife how dey should be rasin'em ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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