I alway find it awkward to hold my pistols so another can check them, or look at others pistols to check them. Angle has to be just so.
very few clubs I shoot at require LTO. one that used be very strict about it no longer mentions it. while loading I try to follow a very set routine, using a loading block. I also eye the others at the table, checking hammers and fit shotgun shells etc.
if we have a brand new shooter we generally assign someone to shepherd them thru the loading process, then hand them off to TO, then after shooting escort them to ULT.