Gonna have to build a reloading shed fast

[El Sobrante Kid]

Condolences to you and your family!

[Stump Water]

Sorry for your family's loss.  

[Eyesa Horg]

Our sincere condolences Dapper and Prayers up 🙏🙏

Eyesa & Ellie

[Rev Willy Dunkum, SASS # 61027]

Condolences Dapper Dave on your mother.  We find out what family is really like at times like these.

 

My advice is to either build or buy a shed, go for a bit bigger than your minimum thinking.  You will fill it.  Make it a wood shed type, my preference is a SASS stage type front so maybe some cowboy carpenters could pitch in to help.  Be sure the floor is sturdy enough for safe weight then put in a PTAC or mini split for AC and heat.  They work great and don't take up much room (lifesavers).   I started with 10x10, outgrew to 12x20.  With what yu have on your plate, rent a storage unit and put it all in there till you can concentrate and focus.  

 

I lost my dad not that long ago and the fallout legal stuff is time consuming, let alone family squabbles.

 

Rev

[Cowtown Scout, SASS #53540 L]

Sorry for your loss - remember the good times 

[J-BAR #18287]

Don't rush!

 

Store stuff if necessary until you can get the setup you want.  For safety's sake as well as for esthetic pleasure,  take time to do it right (and you are the only judge of that!)

[Sheriff Dill]

Prayers up for you and your family in this tough and dark time. So sorry for your loss. 

[Cholla]

I am sorry for your loss. Powder breaks down when stored in a hot environment. Cool and dry are the requirements for long-term storage.

[Dapper Dave]

Thank you all. There is really not as big of a rush as I had thought - I don't have to move anything for probably 6 months to a year, so that gives me time to find what I need. The house will be sold per the will, but probate on an uncontested will can apparently take 6 months to a year, which I find wild. The other problem is the sister-in-law, (who is out spending the last money in mom's account RIGHT NOW), is the Queen of Denial. She "escapes" all the time, unable to face reality. We just went into the house, (it's 75 yards from me), with  my wife, (executor of the will), and...have you ever seen a hoarder house? White tile in the kitchen is black from garbage being walked into the linoleum. Piles of garbage everywhere. Place reeks. Where I have m y stuff in the storeroom is FAR cleaner and more orderly than anywhere in the home - this means it ain't gonna sell anytime soon. The wife is talking about hiring a hoarder house cleanup service from Tucson who will be coming by tomorrow to give an estimate, which will cause the SIL to lose her mind, what little remains. These people also do crime scenes, which is almost appropriate for what this woman did to Mom's house. Why WE are paying to clean a house who's sale won't benefit US at all, (split between SIL and BIL), is beyond me, but I love my wife, as much as I viscerally despise my SIL to the depths of my stained and blackened soul... 
So, the long and short of it, I don't have to go nuts - I'll find a size that works, and get a pad poured first. 

In the meantime, I support my wife fully as she goes through this. Again, thank you very much - Mom went peacefully, literally as I watched. I think she was just looking at me to make sure I would take care of her little girl, which I will for the rest of my unnatural life.

[John Kloehr]

45 minutes ago, Dapper Dave said:

Thank you all. There is really not as big of a rush as I had thought - I don't have to move anything for probably 6 months to a year, so that gives me time to find what I need. The house will be sold per the will, but probate on an uncontested will can apparently take 6 months to a year, which I find wild. The other problem is the sister-in-law, (who is out spending the last money in mom's account RIGHT NOW), is the Queen of Denial. She "escapes" all the time, unable to face reality. We just went into the house, (it's 75 yards from me), with  my wife, (executor of the will), and...have you ever seen a hoarder house? White tile in the kitchen is black from garbage being walked into the linoleum. Piles of garbage everywhere. Place reeks. Where I have m y stuff in the storeroom is FAR cleaner and more orderly than anywhere in the home - this means it ain't gonna sell anytime soon. The wife is talking about hiring a hoarder house cleanup service from Tucson who will be coming by tomorrow to give an estimate, which will cause the SIL to lose her mind, what little remains. These people also do crime scenes, which is almost appropriate for what this woman did to Mom's house. Why WE are paying to clean a house who's sale won't benefit US at all, (split between SIL and BIL), is beyond me, but I love my wife, as much as I viscerally despise my SIL to the depths of my stained and blackened soul... 
So, the long and short of it, I don't have to go nuts - I'll find a size that works, and get a pad poured first. 

In the meantime, I support my wife fully as she goes through this. Again, thank you very much - Mom went peacefully, literally as I watched. I think she was just looking at me to make sure I would take care of her little girl, which I will for the rest of my unnatural life.

If your wife is the executer, she should look to see if the will made provisions for reimbursing time and costs. As to the bank account, whatever the bank has on file as beneficiary probably trumps the will (depending on state). Anyone else taking it or spending out of it is stealing.

[Eyesa Horg]

Thanks for the update Dapper Dave.

🙏🙏Be with you Pard 🙏🙏

 

[Dapper Dave]

SIL has been using Mom's accounts as her own for years. No matter what I said, the other two never wanted to "rock the boat". I warned, this will come back to haunt someday, and that day is today. I tried, but I am the outsider and when the ones who do have the power to affect things refuse, well, it's kinda like watching the Supreme Court refuse to take gun rights cases over and over again while impotently screaming at the TV screen, "DO SOMETHING..."

I also explained that after the death, from what I've read, the estate is to remain intact until the final provisions are completed, such as the car SIL is currently driving all over creation in with Mom's name on it. Chirping crickets. 
I already got snarked at once for trying to make sure my wife doesn't get screwed out of what she deserves, which SIL is perfectly capable of doing out of complete spite. 

However, more meetings in an hour. Yay. 

[Stump Water]

1 hour ago, John Kloehr said:

If your wife is the executer, she should look to see if the will made provisions for reimbursing time and costs.

 

Even the most generic will will have provisions stating the cost of executing the estate will be covered by the estate.  Getting the house in condition to sell would be one of those costs.  Unfortunately, sometimes those costs have to be covered up front.

 

Dave, if SIL's name isn't on mom's account the executor can freeze it.

[Dapper Dave]

Yep, bank requires a death certificate, ( we went there a few minutes ago),and the wife informed SIL the accounts will be locked as soon as that happens. SIL said OK, I don't think she understands.  Funeral arrangements are completed. 

[Linn Keller, SASS 27332, BOLD 103]

My hand on your shoulder, my friend.

I remember how my own mother in law's death hit my wife and I.

You've received more and better advice on your shed than I can come up with, except only:

Install plenty of quad outlets, and paint your floor WHITE, the latter is most helpful when critical screws or a Jesus spring flies out of your project and hits the floor ... somewhere ...

 

[watab kid]

thats great advice - ill take it - and think you should as well , also i agree build ,more than you need as you will find thats not enough , im operating in a 5x5 bathroom space between the tub and stool - im tripping over myself every time i turn around , im only loading for me so i dont have all the pressure you might get , 

 

as to the relatives - my case was only me , a sister and a brother , it all went smooth , my sister handled most of it ........but my wifes family has been a whole different story , there were five siblings - one died , there were eight nieces and nephews in his will , one died , its gotten four lawyers involved and a lot of heated discussion on top of that one sibling has a TBI - the fatter of the deceased niece , so .............been a lot of turbulence here for a good number of years , 

 

just remember , life is good , its short and there is no time to waste on family infights - way too much lawn work and dishes to do , new recopies to try and fun folks to shoot with at the next SASS event - but always willing to listen if you need to unload , i get that too 

[Dapper Dave]

Thank you again, and more good news out of this - we finally got a copy of the actual will, and my wife remembered it wrong, the houses do NOT have to be sold, so time is on my side depending on what the other two siblings want to do. 

I do remember the good times, especially when I had Mom over for Mississippi Pot Roast, (she loved it), or when we would surprise her with a trip to one of our favorite restaurants up in The Valley. A very gracious lady, retired teacher, and the last of her kind. 

Edit to add, I love the idea of the SASS storefront, "City Jail" or the like, and the white painted floor I had never once considered, but that IS a great idea. 

Edited May 7 by Dapper Dave