The way to handle bullies

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[MizPete]

Sounds a lot like my Dad.  He told me never to start it, and never to walk away from it.

[Forty Rod SASS 3935]

24 minutes ago, MizPete said:

Sounds a lot like my Dad.  He told me never to start it, and never to walk away from it.

Sounds very familiar.  Sounds like my dad and now me.

[Subdeacon Joe]

I've never understood the, "Well,  no matter what led to it, your child shouldn't have hit back.  We have a 0 tolerance policy.  The incident should have been reported to the nearest adult."

 

We had a situation sort of like that with my stepdaughter.   I went in to talk to a VP  about  it, told him something like "One of your teachers/yard duty ladies was right there watching it.   Shuft like this has been happening a couple of times a week since the start of the year.  My kid's reported it  We've made calls to admin about it.  We've written letters about it.   And you sit on your lazy burro and do NOTHING.   Next time it happens she's going to take out his knee, then kick him in the crotch,  the belly, and the face.  And you're going to ignore it like you have the attacks on her. If you try to punish her for defending herself when you refuse to do it,  I'm going to the Sheriff,  CPS and anyone else an attorney recommends,  with charges of abuse,  child endangerment, creating a hostile environment for children.   You will be named,  along with the principle,  and the superintendent."  

 

Never another incident. 

[Blackwater 53393]

Back in the early ‘70s, we moved to a new area. I had already graduated high school and was working full time, but my little brother who was eleven years my junior had to start fourth grade at an entirely new school!

 

The first week of school, an older kid pushed him around and took his lunch money while they were on the bus.

 

After a week of this, little brother came to me for advice. I told him that he should take his baseball glove and bat with him to school and if this kid tried it again, to cap his knee!

 

Two days later, the bus driver was parked in our driveway with the bus and little bro!  He told me that he’d have to kick him off the bus and that we’d have to find another way to get him to school.

 

I told the driver that this kid had been bullying little brother and probably other kids too. He said that it didn’t matter, the bully was suffering from a busted knee and he had no choice.

 

I told him that I would report HIM for failing to care properly for his passengers and that our folks would sue the school, the county, the school board, and that we’d file criminal complaints against him and the other kid!

 

Little brother rode the bus. The other kid never bothered another kid again!

 

The lesson ended there!!

[Cypress Sun]

I was a year younger than everyone else and smaller than everyone else throughout my school years. I learned pretty quick that bullies don't like people who fight back. Because of my stature (weight and height), I also learned that if you know it's going to be a fight, get the first shot in and make it count...bullies don't like getting hit first either.

I never got suspended and the bullies left me alone for the most part in junior and senior high school.

 

[Pat Riot]

1 hour ago, Cypress Sun said:

I was a year younger than everyone else and smaller than everyone else throughout my school years. I learned pretty quick that bullies don't like people who fight back. Because of my stature (weight and height), I also learned that if you know it's going to be a fight, get the first shot in and make it count...bullies don't like getting hit first either.

I never got suspended and the bullies left me alone for the most part in junior and senior high school.

 

Same here. I started 1st grade at 5. Some kids I went to school with in middle and high school were 2 and 3 years older than me. 
Been in a LOT of scraps and I can’t abide bullies. 
We moved around a lot. I was always the “new kid” in school. I got used to being alone at school. I didn’t bother people but it always seemed like someone wanted to see how far they could screw with the new kid. I took a few butt kickings but I eventually won or wore them out and they left me alone. 
It was glorious the summer between 10th and 11th grades. I grew 6”. A lot less hassle when you get some size to you as a new kid. 

[Maddog McCoy SASS #5672]

When my son was in school, (2009) he got into a fight on the school bus with a bigger kid that was pushing around a girl that was a friend of his and he told him to stop. The bus stopped and the kids stood up and the kid pushed the girl down to get in front of her. My son stood up and the boy then pushed him. My son pushed the kid onto a seat and the kid started to fight back and my son took him out. ( 3rd or 4th grade.) The school called the house and I was working nights and woke me up. The  lady on the phone said there was a problem and my son had been in a fight. I asked if he started it and she said that did not matter. I said it mattered and she said no. I then asked her if he won. She then got all huffy and said something that I don't remember other than she did not answer the question. I told her if he did not start it and he won, I was good with it and there was not a problem. She hung up and I went back to sleep. The school then called my wife at work. That evening when they got home, she sent him in to tell me what happened and that he had been suspended for the rest of the school year. There was about a week of school left and he talked to me, he said he knew he was not in trouble and I told him as long as you don't start a fight and you defend yourself, you will never be in trouble at home. The school talked like they were going to hold him back because of the fight and I think my wife talked to them, and they did not do it as it was the first time he had ever been in trouble at school and I told her I would go down to the school and straight them out if they tried. I think she used the lawyer threat and nothing happened after that. The comment the school made to her was something about her having to be available as they took me off the call list in case he got into trouble in the future. I guess they did not like my comments.

[Sedalia Dave]

My great-niece got into a fight at school with another girl at school that was picking on her friend during lunch. Her friend is mildly autistic and was too afraid to fight back. Apparently this had been going on for some time. My great-niece finally had enough and beat the snot out of the bully.

 

I'm proud of her for her actions as are her parents.

Unfortunately my great-niece got a couple days in school suspension which she says was worth it. 

[Pat Riot]

I recall my daughter getting into a shoving match with another girl when she was in high school. The other girl was a known bully. My wife and I were summoned to the school as if we were expected to obey. 
We did go to the school only we got there an hour after “required”. I had traffic. My wife couldn’t get away. 
We walked into the office and said we were there to see the Vice Principal. We were told we missed our appointment and it would be a while. 
Hell, it would take me an hour to give the blow by blow as the visit was a real doozy and security was summoned and everyone on campus knew that my daughter’s parents didn’t put up with bullies in the school administration messing with our kid. 
 

School indoctrinators in California act as if they have some kind of power over not only the children, but the parents of the children. 
And just like the roaches that they are, they scatter when the spotlight is shined on them by their superiors…parents that know their rights and aren’t afraid to use them. 
 

[Blackwater 53393]

Hatfield, my only child son, was raised around adults! He went with me to the races every weekend from the time he could walk. I would do my thing on the starting line, (I was crew chief for a multi-car racing team) while he stood beside the track and watched and waited.  Everybody knew who he was and that he belonged right where he was!

 

He grew up having responsibilities. He also learned how to defend himself like an adult. He was in the fifth grade when a bully tried to push him around. Schoolmarm was a teacher at the school, so the young’n had to meet a slightly higher standard of behavior!  He took the kid’s crap for a couple of days, bideing his time. 
 

One afternoon as he was walking down the hall, in line with his classmates, he met the other kid who was going the other direction, also in a line. Hatfield just reached out with the hand nearest the kid, put his foot out, and caught the kid in the chest with his hand, tripping him backward to the floor!  HARD! He held the kid down for a couple of seconds and exchanged a few words. Then he hauled the boy to his feet by his shirt front and walked away.

 

He was never bothered again!

 

One of the other teachers told me later that she thought it was the slickest move she’d ever seen from a child that age.  She was the one who told me about the incident.  I don’t know to this day what he said to the bully. I never asked.

[Eyesa Horg]

Had a long haired big kid bully me for a couple a years. One day out of the blue, I "socked" him square in the face as he approached! Gave him a nice bloody nose and never heard a thing about it. Never got bullied again either!

[Pat Riot]

One thing I could not tolerate in school were the bullies that would pick in the Special Ed. kids. I got into quite a few tussles with bullies over those kids. 
 

One in particular was a kid with a bad speech impediment. He had an unfortunate name for a kid with his condition. His name was something like Bradford Fetermorn. The boy could not pronounce his “R’s” and he was a spindly little kid. People would make fun of the way he said his name and pick on him constantly. 
One day when I was in 10th grade 3 - 11th graders had Bradford in the rest room harassing him and then they decided to give him a swirly - dunk his head in the toilet and flush it. 
This is where I came in. I told them to leave him alone. They laughed and threatened to give me a swirly too. That’s when I went to work. I got a black eye and a fat lip but when me and Bradford left the restroom there were 3 boys on the ground and one of them got a swirly from me and Bradford. 
Later we were all called to the office. Someone overheard Bradford talking about it and told a teacher. 
At our meeting with the vice principal Bradford told the story. When he was finished he was sent back to class.
The 3 Juniors were suspended from school for 5 days. I got 10 days of detention (2 1/2 hours after school sitting quietly in a room - good thing I liked to read) 

I didn’t get suspended because the Vice Principal liked that I stuck up for the kid but he still had to punish me. 
 

After that episode people would tell me that Special Ed kids would tell people that teased them to leave them alone or they would get me to come and kick the bully’s arse. 
And they did on occasion and I always helped them out at that school. 
Since we moved around so much I was never in any one school for long. I went to 5 different high schools in 4 years and one of those schools I went to 3 different times. 8 moves in 4 years doesn’t make for a solid high school education. 

[Eyesa Horg]

Cell phones and social media are huge bullying issues now in my lame opinion. What was only an issue in school or on the bus, is now 24/7. With bullies telling their prey that they should commit suicide. Glad to see that some schools are now at least banning phones in school. 

[Pat Riot]

11 minutes ago, Eyesa Horg said:

Cell phones and social media are huge bullying issues now in my lame opinion. What was only an issue in school or on the bus, is now 24/7. With bullies telling their prey that they should commit suicide. Glad to see that some schools are now at least banning phones in school. 

Yeah, smart phones and social media took bullying and shaming to a whole new level. 
I was seeing that crap at work at my last job in LA. Adult so-called professionals acting like children on Facebook and forums over work issues. They had all these little personal networks as well. 
I am glad I retired when I did. I would have probably ended up in jail at some point had I stayed there until age 65.

[Trailrider #896]

And sometimes if the bully doesn't get the message and starts to fight back or pick on more others, even doing serious harm to the victims, it may be necessary to hit him again...harder!  

[bgavin]

In junior high I got bullied into a corner at a school dance while trying to make headway with a Sweet Young Thing.

 

The bully was drunk and spoiling to tear me apart.  I tried my best to avoid it, but wound up introducing him to my dad’s set of brass knuckles.  Problem solved.