Yul Lose Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 Yesterday I had to go down to our little hardware store and as I was opening the door to enter I saw a woman walking towards the door and I held it open for her. She got closer and proceeded to tell me that she could open her own door and didn’t need my help. So I walked in and made sure that I closed the door so that she’d have to open it herself. Anyway I’m looking for a couple of not so common bolts in the bolt and screw section and guess who comes over and starts looking for a special bolt herself? Yep it’s her and she was looking for a cap screw and showed me the one that she had to match it up with. I knew immediately where those screws were but since she didn’t need me to hold the door for her I was sure that she could find the cap screw for herself also and I told her so and walked away. One of the store clerks walked over and started helping her. Over the last few years I’ve had the door incident happen a couple of times at different places. Seems like it’s always been with younger wimmen, the older ones seem to appreciate good manners. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Widder, SASS #59054 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 Sometime, we can't win for losing. Seems no matter how polite or courteous we try to be, some folks just have a nature to demean kindness and be rude. ..........Widder Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alpo Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I know that feeling. I really do. But I have reached a stage in my life where I no longer care about reactions. I do things that I do because I think that's what I should do. It's like gratitude. If I do something for you and you tell me thank you, that's wonderful. But if you don't tell me thank you, it's not going to ruin my day. And I'll probably do it for somebody else. Because I felt it needed to be done. If I held the door for a woman (notice, I did not say lady), and she gave me a blast of crap about it because she is a liberated woman and did not need to have her door held open by a male chauvinist pig, I would continue to hold the door. Leaving her the choice of walking through the door that was being held open for her by this male chauvinist pig, or standing there. Nice thing about being old is I have nothing but time. I can stand there and hold that door open for her all day. And, if she finally broke down and walks through the door, and makes a nasty comment (because, truthfully, women like that are prone to make nasty comments when you're polite to them), I would ignore it. Then later, if the same woman asked me for help, I would help her. Because that's what I should do. What I should do has nothing to do with her response. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rip Snorter Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 IMO courtesy isn't about them, it is about me and living up to the standards of my upbringing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rye Miles #13621 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I have NEVER had that happen to me. I've always got a nice thank you for opening a door for a lady. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Outlaw Gambler Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I have read this reaction to that type of person. "I didn't hold it open because you are a lady, I held it open because I am a gentleman" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dusty Devil Dale Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 54 minutes ago, Yul Lose said: Yesterday I had to go down to our little hardware store and as I was opening the door to enter I saw a woman walking towards the door and I held it open for her. She got closer and proceeded to tell me that she could open her own door and didn’t need my help. So I walked in and made sure that I closed the door so that she’d have to open it herself. Anyway I’m looking for a couple of not so common bolts in the bolt and screw section and guess who comes over and starts looking for a special bolt herself? Yep it’s her and she was looking for a cap screw and showed me the one that she had to match it up with. I knew immediately where those screws were but since she didn’t need me to hold the door for her I was sure that she could find the cap screw for herself also and I told her so and walked away. One of the store clerks walked over and started helping her. Over the last few years I’ve had the door incident happen a couple of times at different places. Seems like it’s always been with younger wimmen, the older ones seem to appreciate good manners. A lot of younger women --- and men-- are pretty inside themselves. Rudeness is a natural offshoot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackwater 53393 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 When that happens to me, I simply reply that my parents raised me better!! I’ve already drawn their ire. I might as well really ruin their day!! The last time I did, the woman sputtered and fumed ‘til she was clean out of sight!! My politeness only goes so far!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Original Lumpy Gritz Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 Lot of courtesy is seen here in Springfield MO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yul Lose Posted July 26, 2022 Author Share Posted July 26, 2022 25 minutes ago, Alpo said: I know that feeling. I really do. But I have reached a stage in my life where I no longer care about reactions. I do things that I do because I think that's what I should do. It's like gratitude. If I do something for you and you tell me thank you, that's wonderful. But if you don't tell me thank you, it's not going to ruin my day. And I'll probably do it for somebody else. Because I felt it needed to be done. If I held the door for a woman (notice, I did not say lady), and she gave me a blast of crap about it because she is a liberated woman and did not need to have her door held open by a male chauvinist pig, I would continue to hold the door. Leaving her the choice of walking through the door that was being held open for her by this male chauvinist pig, or standing there. Nice thing about being old is I have nothing but time. I can stand there and hold that door open for her all day. And, if she finally broke down and walks through the door, and makes a nasty comment (because, truthfully, women like that are prone to make nasty comments when you're polite to them), I would ignore it. Then later, if the same woman asked me for help, I would help her. Because that's what I should do. What I should do has nothing to do with her response. I find my tolerance for the new “woke” bullshit is very low. Just now, The Original Lumpy Gritz said: Lot of curiosity is seen here in Springfield MO ??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Original Lumpy Gritz Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 4 minutes ago, Yul Lose said: ??? Auto correct Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pat Riot Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I have had that happen a couple of times. Each time the female appeared to be a fat bitter lesbian. They may not have been lesbian, but they were fat and they were bitter. I nearly always get a smile and a “thank you” from older and younger Ladies alike. 1 minute ago, The Original Lumpy Gritz said: Auto correct So what did Otto correct? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawdog Dago Dom Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 Must be location. I saw that snarky behavior more when I lived in Illinois. Not at all in southwest Missouri. Not that it doesn't exist here, I just haven't experienced it firsthand like I did before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kid Rich Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I don't care about the gender of anyone coming in a door behind me, I will hold it open for them. Every once in a while I get a dirty look or no reaction at all. My reply is you're #### welcome. Most folks smile and thank you. kR PS forgot to mention most folks will hold door for me if I'm behind them If they let the door swing shut behind them right in front of me they will get a sarcastic thank you if it's obvious they saw me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cold Lake Kid, SASS # 51474 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I was shopping with my elderly Father at a grocery store, when he said "Thank-you Dear" to the cashier, for his change, only to be treated to "I'M NOT YOUR DEAR!" Always quick, even at his then 90+ he responded: "Thank GOD you're not!" He got a "Good For You Sir" from the Lady next in line. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PowderRiverCowboy Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 Just a couple weeks , Family with kids I started through exiting as they were entering I held door for mom and daughter got a smile and a OHH Thank you from them Husband got a glare like gee see what it you should be doing( let the door swing shut on him ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Okie Sawbones, SASS #77381 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackwater 53393 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 Recently, I’ve had to use a cane to get around quite a bit. I’ve become pretty handy with it, but once in a while someone will open a door for me and I always show my appreciation, politely. HOWEVER! I also still get the door for people most of the time, especially when there is a female in the group. I can push a door open with the cane or use it as a stop when there is a group passing through. Courtesy isn’t any burden and the cane is a tool that sometimes makes it a little easier to show. I also like to go through any choke point last if I don’t know what is on the other side. Since I always pause as I enter a room, it allows others to go through without me holding them up. I mostly carry openly and being courteous sometimes seems to let people know that I’m the good guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawg Hair, SASS #29557 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 If I would ever not hold a door open for a woman I swear I would probably see my 4' 11" mother glaring at me! Heck I do it for my daughter and for my two granddaughters. They both giggle and think it's cute. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Warden Callaway Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 We were taught edicate in grade school. Not "Billy has two daddies". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Birdgun Quail, SASS #63663 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I’ve not had such an unfortunate experience in years. I find most folks in public around here are kind. Some even go out of their way to be considerate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlie MacNeil, SASS #48580 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 1 hour ago, Alpo said: If I held the door for a woman (notice, I did not say lady), and she gave me a blast of crap about it because she is a liberated woman and did not need to have her door held open by a male chauvinist pig, I would continue to hold the door. Leaving her the choice of walking through the door that was being held open for her by this male chauvinist pig, or standing there. Nice thing about being old is I have nothing but time. I can stand there and hold that door open for her all day. And, if she finally broke down and walks through the door, and makes a nasty comment (because, truthfully, women like that are prone to make nasty comments when you're polite to them), I would ignore it. Then later, if the same woman asked me for help, I would help her. Because that's what I should do. What I should do has nothing to do with her response. Kindness to your enemy heaps coals of fire upon his head... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Birdgun Quail, SASS #63663 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 29 minutes ago, Blackwater 53393 said: Recently, I’ve had to use a cane to get around quite a bit. I’ve become pretty handy with it, but once in a while someone will open a door for me and I always show my appreciation, politely. HOWEVER! I also still get the door for people most of the time, especially when there is a female in the group. I can push a door open with the cane or use it as a stop when there is a group passing through. Courtesy isn’t any burden and the cane is a tool that sometimes makes it a little easier to show. I also like to go through any choke point last if I don’t know what is on the other side. Since I always pause as I enter a room, it allows others to go through without me holding them up. I mostly carry openly and being courteous sometimes seems to let people know that I’m the good guy. Dishwater, my friend I’ve known you for many years and have never seen you be anything but one of the truly good guys! And your good natured attitude is contagious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Utah Bob #35998 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 2 hours ago, Rye Miles #13621 said: I have NEVER had that happen to me. I've always got a nice thank you for opening a door for a lady. Ditto. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cold Lake Kid, SASS # 51474 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I recall another occasion. Winter, I wear a hat, (A black Stetson btw) even here in Eastern Canada. Getting on an elevator, some ladies present, I took it off and held it as I always do. One nice French-Canadian lady leaned over a bit and said "That was nice, Thank-You!" No even noticing the other men still wearing their hats I commented: "Ma'am, I'm an Albertan. If my 80 year old Daddy saw me fail to take my hat off in the presence of a lady, he'd kick my butt." A couple doffed their hats and a couple gave me the stink eye. Tough sh.......shoe leather. Get some manners. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muggle Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 The young pretty ones seem to be like that nowadays, Don't give it a thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Warden Callaway Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 58 minutes ago, Cold Lake Kid, SASS # 51474 said: I recall another occasion. Winter, I wear a hat, (A black Stetson btw) even here in Eastern Canada. Getting on an elevator, some ladies present, I took it off and held it as I always do. One nice French-Canadian lady leaned over a bit and said "That was nice, Thank-You!" No even noticing the other men still wearing their hats I commented: "Ma'am, I'm an Albertan. If my 80 year old Daddy saw me fail to take my hat off in the presence of a lady, he'd kick my butt." A couple doffed their hats and a couple gave me the stink eye. Tough sh.......shoe leather. Get some manners. Two things Dad wouldn't allow was coming to the table with your hat on or shirt off. I always wear a shirt anyway but still take my hat off when I set at a table to eat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michigan Slim Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I open doors for the ladies, I take my hat off and wash up for supper. I grew up that way. My mom would stand at the car door until I opened it. Didn't take long for even me to figure it out. I open doors for the women in my life because I love them. I open them for others because my mom would climb out of the grave and whack me with a wooden spoon id I did not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michigan Slim Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 7 hours ago, Dawg Hair, SASS #29557 said: If I would ever not hold a door open for a woman I swear I would probably see my 4' 11" mother glaring at me! Heck I do it for my daughter and for my two granddaughters. They both giggle and think it's cute. My mom was 4'11"! Or six-two with a wooden spoon or a flyswatter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mongo, SASS #61450 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 No good deed goes unpunished. New favorite country song: For all the "woke" young people who don't care for us old people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hardpan Curmudgeon SASS #8967 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I'm reminded of an incident.... Late 1980's I was working for a little outfit in San Francisco called Bank of America as a department head and project manager. One morning I headed into a conference room for a meeting; as I walked in, I saw four female colleagues already seated. "Good morning, Ladies!" I said with a smile. Three of them smiled back and returned the "good morning!" The fourth leveled a scowling glare at me and blurted "I am a WOMAN! I am NOT a LADY!" Still smiling, I replied, "Well, ma'am, I reckon you're not. My apologies," as I took a seat. The other three tried mighty hard to conceal expressions of mirth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eyesa Horg Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 I always hold the door for anyone if they are within 20-30' of the door, even stand there and wait for the slow ones. Generally I get a Thank you, sometimes I'm apparently invisible and once in a while the snot ass woke response. I try to tell them they are welcome as well. I'm with Yul, my woke patience is getting minimal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eyesa Horg Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 What the hell has happened to common courtesy?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rip Snorter Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 3 minutes ago, Eyesa Horg said: What the hell has happened to common courtesy?? It became uncommon! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forty Rod SASS 3935 Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 9 hours ago, Outlaw Gambler said: I have read this reaction to that type of person. "I didn't hold it open because you are a lady, I held it open because I am a gentleman" I've used that. Learned it from my dad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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