Clay Mosby Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 My Mom was 86 when she was diagnosed with dementia back in 2013, and the years since have been a trial as she slowly declined. But she is a stubborn fighter, and steadfastly refused to give in and refused all attempts to convince her to consider moving into assisted living. And she is independent and private enough to strongly resist having in home care. We did finally get care in her home, but not as much as she really needed. Well, this past Saturday Mom suffered a stroke, a result of age and something called CAA, cerebral amyloid angiopathy. She can speak and move everything, but has lost half of her field of vision and is frail and feeble requiring assistance in everything. Will be moving her into a skilled nursing facility today, and then after 2-4 weeks there, if she makes enough progress, we will be moving her to a memory care facility. My biggest concern is that she is going to be so angry about not being able to go home that she might just give up. My wife East Coast Filly, has been my rock through this, but we can use all the extra prayers as we now take care of a wonderful lady that helped us out so many times in the past. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rye Miles #13621 Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Prayers up! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imis Twohofon,SASS # 46646 Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Prayers up This is a tough road you are on, I have been there Imis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pat Riot Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Prayers up for all of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyrel Cody Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Prayers up! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Widder, SASS #59054 Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Clay, I'll remember your Mother and YOUR family in my prayers. A Prayer for her sight healing and a Prayer that she accepts proper care. My Mom is 91 and in good health. But she is also stubborn and has told all of us kids that she would rather move into a nursing home (if needed) than to ever move in with any of us kids and burden us. There are 5 of us who have room in our homes of which she knows she is more than welcome. BUT, she is also super independent, so I can relate to the feelings your Mother has. May God bless and keep your Mother safe and well cared for. ..........Widder Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sixgun Seamus Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Mom never wanted to go to a nursing home or assisted living either. She was fiercly independent for her first 92 years. A series of falls and minor strokes made her realize that it was time. We were able to get her into a real nice assisted living. She accepted it pretty quickly after she found out how nice it was to not have to cook, clean, etc. She bounced between the assisted living and nursing home depending on her condition but always wanted to be "home" at the assisted living. Cherish every moment that you still have with her. Visit as often as possible. Our prayers are for her recovery and her acceptance of extended care. It was two years ago yesterday that we lost Mom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlie Plasters, SASS#60943 Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Praying for her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Father Kit Cool Gun Garth Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Clay: First off, will be praying for your mother. These will be trying times; however, with GOD's will, you will get through. As Seamus alluded to, you MUST visit often! Not only so she doesn't feel abandoned, but more importantly to make sure that she is being cared for by the facility. Be sure to take any complains she addresses as serious and follow-up on them. Her well-being is of the utmost importance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adolph Vancinghand, SASS #28923 Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Prayers up for you and your family. "Ad" & Aunt Hada Nuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Finagler 6853 Life Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 prayers up for your mom. hang tough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DocWard Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 She and your family will be in my thoughts and meditations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blackwater 53393 Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 You've got the prayers of my family outgoing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smoken D Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Wow, 86 5 years ago she sure must be one tough lady at 91. Prayers for her comfort and the family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gateway Kid SASS# 70038 Life Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 Prayers up for you, your mom and the other members of your family. As one of my students told me last week "Be glad for the memories of your past, rejoice in each others company today and look forward to being reunited in our Heavenly Fathers kingdom in the future" His mother passed away this morning at 91 years of age, and did not know who he was (or his brother and two sisters) for the past 3 years Respectfully Gateway Kid Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillbilly Drifter Posted December 6, 2018 Share Posted December 6, 2018 prayers and condolences Clay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tennessee Trapper Tom Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 Prayers on the way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brazos John Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 I went down that road with my Dad. It's a rough one. I'll pray for your Mom, and especially for you, Clay. Brazos Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cold Lake Kid, SASS # 51474 Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 Prayers heading south from the northern side of the Medicine Line. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calamity Kris Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 Prayers for strength and healing going up for you and your family, Clay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clay Mosby Posted December 7, 2018 Author Share Posted December 7, 2018 Thank you everyone from the bottom of our hearts. Mom is now resting in a skilled nursing facility for a few weeks of rehab while we research a permanent place for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forty Rod SASS 3935 Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 13 hours ago, Clay Mosby said: My Mom was 86 when she was diagnosed with dementia back in 2013, and the years since have been a trial as she slowly declined. But she is a stubborn fighter, and steadfastly refused to give in and refused all attempts to convince her to consider moving into assisted living. And she is independent and private enough to strongly resist having in home care. We did finally get care in her home, but not as much as she really needed. Well, this past Saturday Mom suffered a stroke, a result of age and something called CAA, cerebral amyloid angiopathy. She can speak and move everything, but has lost half of her field of vision and is frail and feeble requiring assistance in everything. Will be moving her into a skilled nursing facility today, and then after 2-4 weeks there, if she makes enough progress, we will be moving her to a memory care facility. My biggest concern is that she is going to be so angry about not being able to go home that she might just give up. My wife East Coast Filly, has been my rock through this, but we can use all the extra prayers as we now take care of a wonderful lady that helped us out so many times in the past. Clay, my Mom went through that so I know how tough it is...and will continue to be. Your whole family has my prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MizPete Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 God bless her, and you. Went through this twice. It's not easy, but praying for strength for all of you. Just saying, it gets easier if you can let go of "normal" expectations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whiskey Business Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 Prayers up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eyesa Horg Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 Prayers goin up Clay for your Mom, yourself and family/friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Badger Mountain Charlie SASS #43172 Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 Adding my prayers as well. A hard spot in the road. I know from first hand experience. Keep her close. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sixgun Sheridan Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 The mom unit is the one person you want to take care of as best as you can until her last days. After all she did the same for you during your first! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capt. R. Hugh Kidnme Posted December 7, 2018 Share Posted December 7, 2018 I'm all in on prayers for you, your family and your Mother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clay Mosby Posted December 8, 2018 Author Share Posted December 8, 2018 14 hours ago, Sixgun Sheridan said: The mom unit is the one person you want to take care of as best as you can until her last days. After all she did the same for you during your first! So very true! Mom pulled our bacon out of the fire one more than one occasion even when we were "grown-ups". She's in the care center now. As the days pass we're getting s clearer picture of just how hard the stroke hit her. She can walk (with assistance), speak(very softly, one or two words at a time} and see, (on her right field of vision only) but cannot respond well to directions or questions. Very confused. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
St. Louis Suomi SASS #31905 Posted December 8, 2018 Share Posted December 8, 2018 Prayers up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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